Am I Married or Not?

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Married man

Married man 09/07/2004 08:28 AM
I was essentially a good girl, a serious girl. When I left my apartment that morning, I certainly didn't think I'd return that night with my boss on my arm.

"Mr. Finkelstein got married"

"Mr. Finkelstein got married" 04/15/2005 04:43 AM

Liam’s Married!

Liam’s Married! 03/06/2004 02:06 AM
I’ve known Liam for years, he was an XML expert back before it was called XML, he’s also a hippie and a calligrapher and a standards warrior and a Gnome geek and a full-text-search hacker, has been known not only to give speeches at major conferences in bare feet but use a custom email header X-feet: bare;. Definitely my kind of guy. I discovered recently (in a mailing list posting) that he’s not only gay but has a husband (he’s Canadian too). Which is way cool, they shoulda told us and we woulda sent flowers. They tell me that in a nearby country the Head of State is trying to Amend the Constitution to prevent this kind of thing happening. Can’t be true, that would just be really stupid, they only do that kind of thing in theocr atic feudal monarchies, not in Canada’s nice civilized neighbors. Right?

Really married to the Kellys

Really married to the Kellys 01/23/2004 02:22 PM
The Real Story of the Kelly Family. Two sisters of the Kelly family depicted in the ABC show, "Married to the Kellys", comment on the show, and how it compares to the real family. Sorta cute and interesting to see how art imitates life and life imitates the art imitating life.

LifeFiles: Married To My Computer

LifeFiles: Married To My Computer 10/30/2003 07:15 PM
I am addicted to access to the encyclopedic world at my fingertips, embodied by Google, with its reliability and its curious blend of predictability and ...

Nicollette Sheridan Getting Married (AP)

Nicollette Sheridan Getting Married (AP) 01/05/2005 10:03 PM
AP - "Desperate Housewives" star Nicollette Sheridan will become a wife herself after accepting a marriage proposal. Sheridan, 41, is engaged to Swedish actor Niklas Soderblom, publicist Nancy Ryder said Wednesday. The engagement occurred over the holidays and no other details were immediately available.

We're here, we're queer, we're married.
Yawn.

We're here, we're queer, we're married.
Yawn. 04/19/2004 08:20 AM
While my friends lined up in the rain to get married in San Francisco, I wondered: If this is what we've been fighting for, why do I feel so ambivalent?

First Cousins Get Married in Maryland
(AP)

First Cousins Get Married in Maryland
(AP) 03/29/2005 08:55 PM
AP - First cousins who were denied a marriage license by a Pennsylvania judge earlier this month were wed in a civil ceremony in Maryland, the couple said Monday.

I Married Miss Conception

I Married Miss Conception 05/29/2004 09:42 AM
How badly do some women on BabyCenter want "accidental" pregnancies? Read these topics on condom sabotage, scooping techniques, and the deeply romantic rubber-draining method.

TV host Kaplinsky to be married

TV host Kaplinsky to be married 04/05/2005 11:08 AM
Strictly Come Dancing presenter Natasha Kaplinsky says she is "thrilled and very excited" to be engaged.

"britney spears / just married"

"britney spears / just married" 01/05/2004 04:16 PM

Online And Married With Cash

Online And Married With Cash 10/31/2003 08:20 AM
SiliconValley.Internet.com Oct 31 2003 7:40AM ET

Married With Problems? Therapy May Not
Help

Married With Problems? Therapy May Not
Help 04/18/2005 11:23 PM
Does marital therapy work? Not nearly as well as it should, researchers say.

Actress Tori Spelling Gets Married (AP)

Actress Tori Spelling Gets Married (AP) 07/06/2004 06:50 AM
AP - Actress Tori Spelling, best known for her role as Donna on TV's "Beverly Hills 90210", has married, her publicist said Monday.

Brandy's Ex Claims Couple Never Married
(AP)

Brandy's Ex Claims Couple Never Married
(AP) 07/22/2004 06:49 PM
AP - Two years ago, Brandy announced that she had been secretly married for months. It turns out the real secret may be that she was never married at all.

Dead Couple to Be Married (Reuters)

Dead Couple to Be Married (Reuters) 08/27/2004 01:59 PM
Reuters - A South African man who shot his pregnant fiance dead before killing himself will be posthumously married to her at the weekend.

'Help! I married a Net porn star'

'Help! I married a Net porn star' 02/13/2004 01:28 PM
Man encounters wife on amateur smut site

Charles and Camilla, Married, Without a
Hitch

Charles and Camilla, Married, Without a
Hitch 04/09/2005 12:04 PM
After 33 star-crossed and often unhappy years, through other marriages, bitter divorces, violent public opprobrium and familial dismay, Charles and Camilla finally married.

"woman who married her dead boyfriend"

"woman who married her dead boyfriend" 02/14/2004 03:42 AM

Maybe women wouldn't want to get married
if they knew how time-consuming it was

Maybe women wouldn't want to get married
if they knew how time-consuming it was 03/17/2005 03:24 AM

A 40ish friend he told me about life with his twentysomething girlfriend:

• "I plan the dinner, shop for all the ingredients, choose and buy the wine, cook and clean up."
• "We were staying at a friend's house.  When it came time to leave she was relaxing while I cleaned up and put the sheets and towels in the washing machine."
• "We earn about the same amount of money and yet I pay for everything."
• "She seems to think equality means doing less than half the work so she won't ever have to feel mid-twentieth century housewifelike."

At the same time we know a huge number of women who seem to be good at everything except holding onto a guy long enough to get married, something that they claim to want.  Could it be the case that in the old days mothers sat their daughters down and explained to them how selfish and spoiled most men are and what they needed to do to keep the guy happy?  Whereas now young women are exposed to wisdom from Jada Pinkett Smith, a popular actress:

�Women, you can have it all�a loving man, devoted husband, loving children, a fabulous career,� she said. �They say you gotta choose. Nah, nah, nah. We are a new generation of women. We got to set a new standard of rules around here. You can do whatever it is you want. All you have to do is want it.� (speaking at Harvard, a talk that got her into hot water for being too "heteronormative")

The implication of Pinkett Smith's remarks was that a Harvard girl, in virtue of being bright, well-educated, and ambitious, was entitled to these things without doing too much work except maybe on the career part.  She never added "if you're willing to do the laundry, plan and pay for half the evenings out, straighten up the house in between visits from the cleaners."

Some of our women friends do seem to have figured out what compromises and efforts are entailed but they suffer through many inexplicable (to them) dumpings and are into their late 30s by the time insight is acquired.  This wouldn't be a problem except that by this age they are past their best reproductive years and are often rather embittered toward men.

A potential solution:Find couples where the man is satisfied and not thinking about walking out.  Do time-and-motion studies of the female partner in these couples and figure out how much effort they are putting forth.  Report the results so that single women can decide if it is worth the bother.  Perhaps when they see the data they will come to agree with Isabel Archer in Portrait of a Lady, who, when all around her were trying to marry her off, thought

"she held that a woman ought to be able to make up her life in singleness, and that it was perfectly possible to be happy without the society of a more or less coarse-minded person of another sex."

[Update:  Some (married) friends pointed out that there are quite a few books targeted at women who want to get married, offering advice.  However this advice is anecdotal and not based on hard numbers gleaned from surveys.  A friend in her 40s pointed out that perhaps by coddling our kids we've produced an entire generation too selfish to make a marriage succeed.  This afflicts both young men and women equally with the difference that men have the biological luxury to wait until they are 40 or 50 to figure it out.]

Royal couple begin married life

Royal couple begin married life 04/09/2005 03:31 PM
The Prince of Wales and Camilla are on honeymoon - more than 30 years after their romance began.

"WHATEVER: A Quick Note to About-To-Be
Married Gays and Lesbia..."

"WHATEVER: A Quick Note to About-To-Be
Married Gays and Lesbia..." 05/18/2004 02:44 AM

WHATEVER: A Quick Note to About-To-Be
Married Gays and Lesbians

WHATEVER: A Quick Note to About-To-Be
Married Gays and Lesbians 05/17/2004 04:32 AM
Wedding Advice .. words

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House passes tax cuts for married
couples

House passes tax cuts for married
couples 04/29/2004 10:35 AM

House Passes Tax Cuts for Married
Couples (AP)

House Passes Tax Cuts for Married
Couples (AP) 04/28/2004 05:37 PM
AP - The House voted Wednesday to lower taxes for some married couples, part of an election-year push to lock in some of President Bush's most popular tax cuts.

BRITNEY SPEARS JUST FUCKING GOT MARRIED
AND SHE WAS PROBABLY DRUNK WHEN SHE DID
IT

BRITNEY SPEARS JUST FUCKING GOT MARRIED
AND SHE WAS PROBABLY DRUNK WHEN SHE DID
IT 01/05/2004 06:09 AM
Britney Spears marries Jason Alexander .. the guy that married Britney .. Britney Supposedly Hitched?

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House pushes tax cuts for married
couples

House pushes tax cuts for married
couples 04/28/2004 05:17 PM

Married men earn more if wives do the
chores-study (Reuters)

Married men earn more if wives do the
chores-study (Reuters) 06/22/2005 02:18 AM
Reuters - Married men earn more than bachelors so long as their wives stay at home doing the housework, according to a report on Wednesday from Britain's Institute for Social and Economic Research (ISER).

Britney Spears has married her childhood
friend in Las Vegas

Britney Spears has married her childhood
friend in Las Vegas 01/04/2004 07:20 AM
britney spears marries, men everywhere crushed .. Weird Britney wedding?

cnn.com/2004/SHOWBIZ/Music/01/04/britney.spears.wedding.ap/ index.html
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San Francisco Selling Its List of
Married Gays (Reuters)

San Francisco Selling Its List of
Married Gays (Reuters) 04/13/2004 11:19 AM
Reuters - San Francisco, which ignited a passionate nationwide debate by allowing thousands of gays to marry earlier this year, is selling its list of the newlyweds, the mayor says.

Finkelstein married his (unnamed) male
partner last December

Finkelstein married his (unnamed) male
partner last December 04/10/2005 05:16 AM
I'm really at a loss as to how else to describe this guy: .. opposed gay rights .. nytimes article .. married

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NetFlash: Of love and pagers: The life
of married network pros

NetFlash: Of love and pagers: The life
of married network pros 03/27/2005 05:36 AM
“I don't think our daughter would be too happy if we announced that this year's family vacation was going to be at Comdex,” says one network engineer. But when both parents are in the networking industry, sometimes such sacrifices seem necessary. Being in IT has a way of demanding quite a bit. This week’s A Wider Net looks at networkers who are married to each other - and to the industry. Of love and pagers: The life of married network pros http://www.nwfusion.com/news/2005/032105widernetlove.html?net

Digital bliss: Soon-to-be-married couple
get help wiring their love nest

Digital bliss: Soon-to-be-married couple
get help wiring their love nest 04/04/2005 06:12 AM
SiliconValley.com Apr 4 2005 10:09AM GMT

"The popstar married Jason Alexander on
Saturday morning, afte..."

"The popstar married Jason Alexander on
Saturday morning, afte..." 01/05/2004 04:16 PM

CBS News | Britney Not Legally Married
Yet? | September 22, 2004 13:48:32

CBS News | Britney Not Legally Married
Yet? | September 22, 2004 13:48:32 09/23/2004 12:31 AM
"illegitimate" .. NOT MARRIED

cbsnews.com/stories/2004/09/22/earlyshow/leisure/celebspot/m ain644939.shtml
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The popstar married Jason Alexander on
Saturday morning, after a night out in
Las Vegas

The popstar married Jason Alexander on
Saturday morning, after a night out in
Las Vegas 01/05/2004 04:57 AM
was a "joke that went to far" .. Britney's marriage anulled .. Ms. Britney

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Help Derek give San Francisco's married
gays prints of their happy moments

Help Derek give San Francisco's married
gays prints of their happy moments 02/19/2004 12:46 PM
Derek sez, "Last weekend I was a City Hall, photographing the happy couples descend the steps after their marriages. Now I'd like to track down as many of the couples as I can to give them prints of their happy moment! If you know one of these people, or know someone who might, please put them in touch with me using one of the many social software tools at our disposal!" Link (Thanks, Derek!)

A 35-year-old Frenchwoman became both
bride and widow when she married her
dead boyfriend, in an exchange of vows
that required authorisation from the
French president

A 35-year-old Frenchwoman became both
bride and widow when she married her
dead boyfriend, in an exchange of vows
that required authorisation from the
French president 02/11/2004 05:56 AM
corpses

smh.com.au/articles/2004/02/11/1076388397691.html
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"For those of you who might be wondering
how it is that the widow of someone who
fought in a war in the early 1860s might
still be alive, quite a few young women
married elderly civil war-era veterans
during the depression"

"For those of you who might be wondering
how it is that the widow of someone who
fought in a war in the early 1860s might
still be alive, quite a few young women
married elderly civil war-era veterans
during the depression" 06/17/2004 11:33 AM

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