Pressing on, in grief
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Who Is Pressing the PSP Porn?
Who Is Pressing the PSP Porn?
06/22/2005 01:57 AM
GamesIndustry.biz is running a story where a Sony exec calls
the recently-announced GLAY'z PSP Porn
"utterly undesirable," going on to claim that they are powerless to
stop its production. So who then, if not Sony, is making the PSP UMD
discs the Japanese porn will be printed on? I was under the impression
that part of the reason for using UMD in the PSP was that Sony would
be able to control the manufacturing, and thusly get a cut from every
disc pressed (a la Nintendo and its cartridges). If that's not
the case, who is pressing the discs, and what prevents them from
offering things like, say, blank, burnable UMD media and drives? I'm
asking these as questions, because I don't know, but would like to. Is
it Sony being coy or could we actually have a rogue UMD producer on
our hands?
SCE
powerless to stop porn on PSP [GamesIndustry.biz]
Pressing Patents
Pressing Patents
04/13/2004 08:32 AMThere are at least 30 more unsettled patent cases involving Microsoft.
At the same time, Microsoft is building up a hefty patent arsenal of
its own.
Charity pressing for smoking ban
Charity pressing for smoking ban
09/15/2004 12:11 AMCampaigners say a ban on smoking in public places could save more
lives than new anti-cancer drugs.
Blunkett pressing on with ID card plans
Blunkett pressing on with ID card plans
11/11/2003 11:41 AMSilicon.com Nov 11 2003 10:16AM ET
Scotiabank pressing Argentina for
redress
Scotiabank pressing Argentina for
redress
04/08/2005 10:04 AMglobetechnology.com Apr 8 2005 1:07PM GMT
"Public's cynicism about media has
become a pressing concern"
"Public's cynicism about media has
become a pressing concern"
04/15/2004 03:48 PMPublic's cynicism about media has become
a pressing concern
Public's cynicism about media has become
a pressing concern
04/15/2004 01:17 AMA poll of people's perceptions .. building cynicsm .. news business:
..
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boston.com/news/globe/living/articles/2004/04/14/publics_cynici
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Cheney Pressing China on N. Korea Nukes
(AP)
Cheney Pressing China on N. Korea Nukes
(AP)
04/14/2004 03:48 AMAP - Vice President Dick Cheney presented new evidence to Chinese
leaders Wednesday on North Korea's nuclear program, suggesting it
increased the urgency to restart six-nation talks on Pyongyang's
nuclear ambitions, a senior administration official said.
U.S. Pressing China to Yield on Wireless
Encryption
U.S. Pressing China to Yield on Wireless
Encryption
03/06/2004 01:53 AMThe Bush administration stepped up its pressure on China this week to
back off its plan to impose a software encryption standard for
wireless computers that American technology companies regard as an
unfair trade barrier.
Bush Pressing Case for 'Ownership
Society' (AP)
Bush Pressing Case for 'Ownership
Society' (AP)
08/21/2004 04:32 PMAP - Amid signs that the economy is cooling, President Bush is
showcasing initiatives for a second term under the banner of an
"ownership society" in hopes of bolstering his economic stewardship
credentials.
Beslan stunned by grief
Beslan stunned by grief
09/05/2004 07:31 AMThe full force of the hostage tragedy that unfolded in southern Russia
begins to hit home in the stunned town of Beslan.
A McDonald's Grief menu to go
A McDonald's Grief menu to go
03/13/2003 10:15 AMThe other day I was at mcDonalds. On the way out I accidently threw my
GSM in the garbage can....
Rituals of Grief, on a Day Eased Only by
Time
Rituals of Grief, on a Day Eased Only by
Time
09/11/2004 12:55 PMHundreds drew close to the sites of the worst terrorist attack in
United States history to remember and mourn those lost three years ago
yesterday, on Sept. 11, 2001.
G.I. Families United in Grief, but Split
by the War
G.I. Families United in Grief, but Split
by the War
01/01/2005 08:19 PMThey have met on the Internet and on cross-country road trips. But
mostly they find one another at the funerals.
Family's grief at soldier's death
Family's grief at soldier's death
06/29/2004 02:34 AMThe family of a soldier killed in Iraq say he should not have been
sent there so soon after finishing training.
Grief overshadows Italy elections
Grief overshadows Italy elections
04/03/2005 06:00 PMRegional elections are under way in Italy, with two days of voting
overshadowed by the Pope's death.
Flood of Grief on 9/11 Anniversary
(washingtonpost.com)
Flood of Grief on 9/11 Anniversary
(washingtonpost.com)
09/12/2004 05:14 AMwashingtonpost.com - Hundreds of grieving family members gathered amid
the white tombstones of Arlington National Cemetery yesterday to mark
the third anniversary of the Sept. 11 attacks, as people across the
nation observed the day with bagpipes and bugles, prayers and moments
of silence.
Pressing the Mute Button on Our Daily
Soundtrack (Los Angeles Times)
Pressing the Mute Button on Our Daily
Soundtrack (Los Angeles Times)
12/19/2004 03:35 PMLos Angeles Times - Back in the prehistoric 1970s, one of life's
little pleasures was the ability to slam down a telephone on annoying
callers. Now, thanks to the rise of cordless phones, the best you can
do is fiercely poke the off button — or, if money is no object,
throw the receiver into a wall.
Bush administration appears reluctant to
embarrass the UN by pressing for answers
Bush administration appears reluctant to
embarrass the UN by pressing for answers
05/21/2004 03:48 AMLeaked UN audit proves Oil-for-Food
shambles
mineweb.net/sections/energy/oilshambles.htm
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Often, Time Beats Therapy for Treating
Grief
Often, Time Beats Therapy for Treating
Grief
01/26/2004 07:34 PMA majority of people who suffer the loss of a loved one neither need
nor benefit from participation in a bereavement group.
Freedom of Information means grief for
small biz
Freedom of Information means grief for
small biz
09/14/2004 05:19 AMWhat price freedom?
Amid Grief, India Asks: 'Why Weren't We
Warned?'
Amid Grief, India Asks: 'Why Weren't We
Warned?'
12/31/2004 10:29 PMReuters via Wired News Jan 1 2005 2:32AM GMT
A Crossing Crash Unreported and a Family
Broken by Grief
A Crossing Crash Unreported and a Family
Broken by Grief
07/11/2004 09:49 PMIn 1997, Hilary Feaster was killed at a railroad crossing. Two boys
were killed at the same crossing four years before, but the railroad
had never reported the accident.
Grief as Haitians and Dominicans Tally
Flood Toll
Grief as Haitians and Dominicans Tally
Flood Toll
05/28/2004 09:25 AMOfficials said the death toll might go as high as 2,000, making it one
of the worst natural disasters in Caribbean history.
Good Grief! That Favorite Comic Strip Is
Missing
Good Grief! That Favorite Comic Strip Is
Missing
08/22/2004 12:14 AMNewspapers across the country have been reducing comic strips in the
face of sluggish advertising revenue and rising paper costs.
Mourners share grief in pope's
tech-savvy footsteps (AFP)
Mourners share grief in pope's
tech-savvy footsteps (AFP)
04/03/2005 04:02 PMAFP - Pope John Paul II was known as a gifted communicator in an
electronic age and his followers are making creative use of e-mail,
mobile phones and text messages to share their grief.
Mexican Puppy Mills Breed Grief in
Southland (Los Angeles Times)
Mexican Puppy Mills Breed Grief in
Southland (Los Angeles Times)
07/26/2004 05:21 AMLos Angeles Times - SAN DIEGO — Smugglers are flooding the
Southern California pet market with disease-ridden puppies from
Mexico, prompting law enforcement crackdowns, raising public health
concerns and breaking the hearts of owners who watch their dogs die,
often within hours of buying them.
On putting 'I'm gay' on a
tongue-in-cheek mock-up of a business
card (and all the bloody grief it's
causing)...
On putting 'I'm gay' on a
tongue-in-cheek mock-up of a business
card (and all the bloody grief it's
causing)...
12/24/2004 01:02 PMSo I've been trying to respond to the thread about my apparent
obsession with going on about my sexuality (note - they're talking
about this) that's manifested
over at NSLog(); except now all my comments are getting bounced for
'questionable content'. I've tried removing all the rude words from
what I write, but god knows it's hard, and it doesn't appear to be
doing any good. Before anyone goes running at his head suggesting that
he's blocking comments like this to avoid debate, I should point out
that I've been having problems with the MTBlacklist questionable
content filters recently, so I'm not implying anything. Instead I
thought I'd just post it here, with all the rude words back in... Feel
free to post your own thoughts about this stuff either here or over on
his site... But be nice, eh?
If what you're doing here is warning me that by having my
sexuality on a card I might give out to people might stop me getting
jobs, then thank you very much. Clearly by my age I wouldn't have
figured that out already.
Figures suggest that people who don't meet their partners at school or
university tend to meet them through work. Clearly this happens by
complete coincidence - two people (let's say they're straight) are so
conscious that they must not be flagrant about their heterosexuality
that they avoid all mention of it for years until they happen to bump
into each other at some kind of 'straight bar', recognise their
attraction suddenly and fall into each other's arms. Clearly there's
absolutely no assumption that it's okay to flirt with each other at a
Christmas party or whatever. Clearly no one talks about what they did
at the weekend if it could possibly be construed as to make any
reference (direct or indirectly) to whether they're gay or straight or
not. So they wouldn't say that they'd cooked a meal for their
girlfriend, or go to see a film with their boyfriend. Clearly they
wouldn't say out loud that they'd had a birthday party for their
3-year old son. I mean all of these things would be shouting from
the rooftops about their sexuality. They may as well be standing
outside your house with placards or rutting like Bonobo monkeys on the
photocopier.
And quite right, I think, they should be ashamed of themselves -
fornicating with their partners at home! Giving birth to children!
Socialising with their family! Getting married! The shame. They make
me sick.
I can honestly say that I'm stunned by your statement that you cannot
see the difference between someone feeling the need to make it clear
they were gay to avoid discomfort and awkwardness for themselves and
their colleagues, and the fact that straight people simply don't need
to do that stuff. Straight sexuality comes up in conversation a dozen
times a day - by association, by reference, however.
At no point during my piece over on plasticbag.org or here have I said
that a gay person should 'go on about' their sexuality. In fact quite
the opposite. As far as I'm concerned, getting it out of the way early
means that the whole thing becomes less of an issue - not more. It's
about everyone knowing where they stand, so that they don't say
something crass in the office like, "Oh that photocopier is so gay"
while someone over the other side of the room feels it like a kick in
the head. It's so that the gay individual concerned doesn't have to go
through this whole long drawn-out tentative process with each member
of staff as issues of boyfriends/girlfriends, what you did at the
weekend, what you think about some piece of the news, whether you
fancy that bird in accounting come up in idle conversation. Because
that stuff is bloody difficult and infuriating and frankly I'm not
prepared to go back to a time where I have to go through all that
bollocks every time I happen to meet a new human being.
All of which misses the point. I don't make a secret of my sexuality,
but nor do I tend to make a big deal about it. Most people who read my
site have no idea that I'm gay. They find it a 'surprise' when they
find out. I wish that wasn't the case. I wish that they weren't
assuming that I was straight. I wish it wasn't an issue at all, but it
remains one I'm afraid. I could bring my sexuality into my site all
the bloody time if I wanted to, but I don't. I think I've struck a
good balance between making my sexuality clear and then getting it off
the table to talk about other stuff. And if you don't like that
balance, well frankly tough. I don't care whether you like it or not.
I'll be damned if I'm going to treat the rest of my life like my
teenage years and live in fear of 'being found out'.
I should also point out that you've missed a hell of a lot of
qualifying language from my post as well. I mean the very title
includes, "In a happier world...". The text itself calls it a
"Tongue-in-cheek-ish slightly-bored early-evening version of what I
would kind of like my business card to be like." I stand by it - if
anything your reaction makes me want to use it more - but it was never
meant to be anything but a throwaway offhand happy and less formal
card that I felt represented me accurately. It's true that I don't
think that the normal separation of life and work is a reasonable one
- that I think that we should act according to our principles in both,
that we should care about our work all the time, that it should
ideally be a passion and as much of our personality as things like
your sexuality or nationality or political beliefs or whatever. I
really care about my work and don't just see it as something that pays
the bills, any more than I think my sexuality is just about something
that happens in bed with a friend. But just because I'm not as willing
to distinguish between the things I get paid to do and the things I do
because I think it's the right and proper way of operating in the
world, doesn't make it reasonable for you to conflate two words on a
mock-up of a business card with a form of big swinging-dick
sex-obsessed radical queer activism!
Oh and somewhere along the line you also make some comment about how I
seem to have a lot of respect for myself, and I'm beginning to think
that's really where a lot of this stuff is coming from. If you find me
personally annoying or offensive then just say so and we can talk
about that like grown-ups. Seems at the moment that the only person
fixating on my sexuality is you.
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Elton John Says 'American Idol' Vote Is
'Racist' (Oh Good Grief. The Guy Who Won
Last Year Was Black. Does He Think The
Whole Audience Turn "Racist" Since
Then?)
Elton John Says 'American Idol' Vote Is
'Racist' (Oh Good Grief. The Guy Who Won
Last Year Was Black. Does He Think The
Whole Audience Turn "Racist" Since
Then?)
04/28/2004 10:22 AMMore
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Thompson Automotive Labs Introduces the
Industry's Fastest, Easiest, and Most
Cost-Effective Program for Identifying
Misfires: A Lab Scope Based Tool That’s
As Easy as Pressing a Button!
Thompson Automotive Labs Introduces the
Industry's Fastest, Easiest, and Most
Cost-Effective Program for Identifying
Misfires: A Lab Scope Based Tool That’s
As Easy as Pressing a Button!
03/30/2005 03:56 AMThompson Automotive Labs, an automotive diagnostic tool company
announces A.C.E. Misfire Detective. Automotive diagnostic software
that accurately identifies misfires quickly and accurately, saving
diagnostic time, reducing misdiagnosis, increasing preventative
maintenance sales and overall profits. [PRWEB Mar 30, 2005]
DEALING WITH
GRIEF: UNPROFESSIONAL ADVICE
DEALING WITH
GRIEF: UNPROFESSIONAL ADVICE
06/03/2004 05:25 AM
I've written twice before about
suicide, and a new 'advice
column' in Salon.com has provoked me to write about it again. The
gist of my earlier articles:
- Depression
is a 'natural' consequence of stress, and, as the illustration
above shows, it is somewhat self-reinforcing: our DNA programs us, in
situations of intense or chronic stress, to
flight or flee, and if neither of those works, to shut down, withdraw,
give up -- and suicide is one manifestation of shutting down and
giving
up;
- If you haven't
lived
with the Noonday Demon, you can't possibly know what it's like,
and
you can't possibly know how it can lead someone to take their own
life;
and
- Moral
judgement of those who commit suicide is repugnant -- no one has
the right to tell another human being that their personal decision to
terminate their own life is 'cowardly', 'irresponsible', 'lazy',
"petulant', 'immature', 'self-pitying' 'self-indulgent', 'murderous',
or 'cynical and cruel'. To call someone who commits suicide a
'self-murderer' is
indistinguishable from and as morally reprehensible and outrageous as
calling a woman who terminates an unwanted pregnancy a 'baby
murderer'.
So you will probably not be surprised to learn that I was horrified to
hear Salon 'advice columnist' Cary Tennis encourage a survivor of a
friend's suicide to hate and blame the one who took his own
anguished life. Hate-mongering offends me at the best of times, and to
see it espoused against those suffering a dreadful and incapacitating
illness is disturbing. Here are two especially offensive excerpts:
Sentimentalizing
suicide only encourages others who, weak-minded, pained, lacking the
ability to see how foolish and wrong it is, might succeed all too well
in their feeble attempts.
When they go by suicide, they leave us in an insult of dust.
What fucking gall, Mr. Tennis -- and
such cruel and inflammatory language. Those who commit suicide are not
weak-minded, and if this 'advice columnist' had the faintest inkling
what it is like to live with suicidal depression he would know better.
And who the hell does he think he is to judge the actions of someone
he
has never met as 'foolish and wrong'?
Mr. Tennis should also know that suicide is almost never an 'insult'
to
anyone. It is an act of desperation, usually after years of
unimaginable suffering, to escape a living hell that the victim --
yes,
victim -- can no longer
bear. It usually has nothing to do
with anyone else, so the last thing it is is an insult to others.
To counsel people, especially people in pain after an unexpected and
shocking loss, to hate and blame the deceased is an affront to human
dignity, an abuse of trust, and an offense to the memory of someone
who
was a victim, not a 'murderer'.
There is a perverse character flaw in some people to always assuage
grief by transferring it to anger and blame. Grief is internal, and it
can eat you alive. Anger and blame are externally focused. They are
much easier emotions to handle. And in some cases -- like rechanneling
the grief over 9/11 into anger at Osama bin Ladin -- such transferance
is quite rational. But although the exploitative 'vengeance' religions
would have you believe otherwise, when people suffer and die there is
often no one to blame, no one
to get angry at. And reaching closure,
like dealing with grief, is an internal process. It is about
personally
coming to grips with loss, with the realization that the toxic 'what
might have been' is irrelevant, a fiction, closed.
It is a slow, painful healing process. And it is a process best
undertaken honestly. Using some cheap trick like transferring the pain
to anger and blame of a phony straw man merely perverts and delays the
process, and stirs up inappropriate emotions that can only confuse and
inflame, not heal.
Some advice, we're better off without.
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