Flood of Grief on 9/11 Anniversary (washingtonpost.com)
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Grief as Haitians and Dominicans Tally
Flood Toll
Grief as Haitians and Dominicans Tally
Flood Toll
05/28/2004 09:25 AMOfficials said the death toll might go as high as 2,000, making it one
of the worst natural disasters in Caribbean history.
Abortion Rights Advocates Flood D.C.
(washingtonpost.com)
Abortion Rights Advocates Flood D.C.
(washingtonpost.com)
04/26/2004 03:59 PMDemocrats Flood Iowa With Ground Troops
(washingtonpost.com)
Democrats Flood Iowa With Ground Troops
(washingtonpost.com)
01/10/2004 11:20 PMwashingtonpost.com - DES MOINES, Jan. 10 -- Iowans have never seen a
political battle like the one that has begun to unfold here, a
massive voter mobilization operation that will decide the outcome of
the Jan. 19 Democratic caucuses and demonstrate whether Howard Dean's
grass-roots movement translates into superior strength at the ballot
box.
Pressing on, in grief
Pressing on, in grief
03/14/2005 06:27 PMChicagosports.chicagotribune.com - Sat Mar 12, 05:57 am GMT
Beslan stunned by grief
Beslan stunned by grief
09/05/2004 07:31 AMThe full force of the hostage tragedy that unfolded in southern Russia
begins to hit home in the stunned town of Beslan.
A McDonald's Grief menu to go
A McDonald's Grief menu to go
03/13/2003 10:15 AMThe other day I was at mcDonalds. On the way out I accidently threw my
GSM in the garbage can....
G.I. Families United in Grief, but Split
by the War
G.I. Families United in Grief, but Split
by the War
01/01/2005 08:19 PMThey have met on the Internet and on cross-country road trips. But
mostly they find one another at the funerals.
Rituals of Grief, on a Day Eased Only by
Time
Rituals of Grief, on a Day Eased Only by
Time
09/11/2004 12:55 PMHundreds drew close to the sites of the worst terrorist attack in
United States history to remember and mourn those lost three years ago
yesterday, on Sept. 11, 2001.
Family's grief at soldier's death
Family's grief at soldier's death
06/29/2004 02:34 AMThe family of a soldier killed in Iraq say he should not have been
sent there so soon after finishing training.
Grief overshadows Italy elections
Grief overshadows Italy elections
04/03/2005 06:00 PMRegional elections are under way in Italy, with two days of voting
overshadowed by the Pope's death.
Freedom of Information means grief for
small biz
Freedom of Information means grief for
small biz
09/14/2004 05:19 AMWhat price freedom?
Often, Time Beats Therapy for Treating
Grief
Often, Time Beats Therapy for Treating
Grief
01/26/2004 07:34 PMA majority of people who suffer the loss of a loved one neither need
nor benefit from participation in a bereavement group.
Good Grief! That Favorite Comic Strip Is
Missing
Good Grief! That Favorite Comic Strip Is
Missing
08/22/2004 12:14 AMNewspapers across the country have been reducing comic strips in the
face of sluggish advertising revenue and rising paper costs.
Amid Grief, India Asks: 'Why Weren't We
Warned?'
Amid Grief, India Asks: 'Why Weren't We
Warned?'
12/31/2004 10:29 PMReuters via Wired News Jan 1 2005 2:32AM GMT
A Crossing Crash Unreported and a Family
Broken by Grief
A Crossing Crash Unreported and a Family
Broken by Grief
07/11/2004 09:49 PMIn 1997, Hilary Feaster was killed at a railroad crossing. Two boys
were killed at the same crossing four years before, but the railroad
had never reported the accident.
Mourners share grief in pope's
tech-savvy footsteps (AFP)
Mourners share grief in pope's
tech-savvy footsteps (AFP)
04/03/2005 04:02 PMAFP - Pope John Paul II was known as a gifted communicator in an
electronic age and his followers are making creative use of e-mail,
mobile phones and text messages to share their grief.
Mexican Puppy Mills Breed Grief in
Southland (Los Angeles Times)
Mexican Puppy Mills Breed Grief in
Southland (Los Angeles Times)
07/26/2004 05:21 AMLos Angeles Times - SAN DIEGO — Smugglers are flooding the
Southern California pet market with disease-ridden puppies from
Mexico, prompting law enforcement crackdowns, raising public health
concerns and breaking the hearts of owners who watch their dogs die,
often within hours of buying them.
On putting 'I'm gay' on a
tongue-in-cheek mock-up of a business
card (and all the bloody grief it's
causing)...
On putting 'I'm gay' on a
tongue-in-cheek mock-up of a business
card (and all the bloody grief it's
causing)...
12/24/2004 01:02 PMSo I've been trying to respond to the thread about my apparent
obsession with going on about my sexuality (note - they're talking
about this) that's manifested
over at NSLog(); except now all my comments are getting bounced for
'questionable content'. I've tried removing all the rude words from
what I write, but god knows it's hard, and it doesn't appear to be
doing any good. Before anyone goes running at his head suggesting that
he's blocking comments like this to avoid debate, I should point out
that I've been having problems with the MTBlacklist questionable
content filters recently, so I'm not implying anything. Instead I
thought I'd just post it here, with all the rude words back in... Feel
free to post your own thoughts about this stuff either here or over on
his site... But be nice, eh?
If what you're doing here is warning me that by having my
sexuality on a card I might give out to people might stop me getting
jobs, then thank you very much. Clearly by my age I wouldn't have
figured that out already.
Figures suggest that people who don't meet their partners at school or
university tend to meet them through work. Clearly this happens by
complete coincidence - two people (let's say they're straight) are so
conscious that they must not be flagrant about their heterosexuality
that they avoid all mention of it for years until they happen to bump
into each other at some kind of 'straight bar', recognise their
attraction suddenly and fall into each other's arms. Clearly there's
absolutely no assumption that it's okay to flirt with each other at a
Christmas party or whatever. Clearly no one talks about what they did
at the weekend if it could possibly be construed as to make any
reference (direct or indirectly) to whether they're gay or straight or
not. So they wouldn't say that they'd cooked a meal for their
girlfriend, or go to see a film with their boyfriend. Clearly they
wouldn't say out loud that they'd had a birthday party for their
3-year old son. I mean all of these things would be shouting from
the rooftops about their sexuality. They may as well be standing
outside your house with placards or rutting like Bonobo monkeys on the
photocopier.
And quite right, I think, they should be ashamed of themselves -
fornicating with their partners at home! Giving birth to children!
Socialising with their family! Getting married! The shame. They make
me sick.
I can honestly say that I'm stunned by your statement that you cannot
see the difference between someone feeling the need to make it clear
they were gay to avoid discomfort and awkwardness for themselves and
their colleagues, and the fact that straight people simply don't need
to do that stuff. Straight sexuality comes up in conversation a dozen
times a day - by association, by reference, however.
At no point during my piece over on plasticbag.org or here have I said
that a gay person should 'go on about' their sexuality. In fact quite
the opposite. As far as I'm concerned, getting it out of the way early
means that the whole thing becomes less of an issue - not more. It's
about everyone knowing where they stand, so that they don't say
something crass in the office like, "Oh that photocopier is so gay"
while someone over the other side of the room feels it like a kick in
the head. It's so that the gay individual concerned doesn't have to go
through this whole long drawn-out tentative process with each member
of staff as issues of boyfriends/girlfriends, what you did at the
weekend, what you think about some piece of the news, whether you
fancy that bird in accounting come up in idle conversation. Because
that stuff is bloody difficult and infuriating and frankly I'm not
prepared to go back to a time where I have to go through all that
bollocks every time I happen to meet a new human being.
All of which misses the point. I don't make a secret of my sexuality,
but nor do I tend to make a big deal about it. Most people who read my
site have no idea that I'm gay. They find it a 'surprise' when they
find out. I wish that wasn't the case. I wish that they weren't
assuming that I was straight. I wish it wasn't an issue at all, but it
remains one I'm afraid. I could bring my sexuality into my site all
the bloody time if I wanted to, but I don't. I think I've struck a
good balance between making my sexuality clear and then getting it off
the table to talk about other stuff. And if you don't like that
balance, well frankly tough. I don't care whether you like it or not.
I'll be damned if I'm going to treat the rest of my life like my
teenage years and live in fear of 'being found out'.
I should also point out that you've missed a hell of a lot of
qualifying language from my post as well. I mean the very title
includes, "In a happier world...". The text itself calls it a
"Tongue-in-cheek-ish slightly-bored early-evening version of what I
would kind of like my business card to be like." I stand by it - if
anything your reaction makes me want to use it more - but it was never
meant to be anything but a throwaway offhand happy and less formal
card that I felt represented me accurately. It's true that I don't
think that the normal separation of life and work is a reasonable one
- that I think that we should act according to our principles in both,
that we should care about our work all the time, that it should
ideally be a passion and as much of our personality as things like
your sexuality or nationality or political beliefs or whatever. I
really care about my work and don't just see it as something that pays
the bills, any more than I think my sexuality is just about something
that happens in bed with a friend. But just because I'm not as willing
to distinguish between the things I get paid to do and the things I do
because I think it's the right and proper way of operating in the
world, doesn't make it reasonable for you to conflate two words on a
mock-up of a business card with a form of big swinging-dick
sex-obsessed radical queer activism!
Oh and somewhere along the line you also make some comment about how I
seem to have a lot of respect for myself, and I'm beginning to think
that's really where a lot of this stuff is coming from. If you find me
personally annoying or offensive then just say so and we can talk
about that like grown-ups. Seems at the moment that the only person
fixating on my sexuality is you.
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Elton John Says 'American Idol' Vote Is
'Racist' (Oh Good Grief. The Guy Who Won
Last Year Was Black. Does He Think The
Whole Audience Turn "Racist" Since
Then?)
Elton John Says 'American Idol' Vote Is
'Racist' (Oh Good Grief. The Guy Who Won
Last Year Was Black. Does He Think The
Whole Audience Turn "Racist" Since
Then?)
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DEALING WITH
GRIEF: UNPROFESSIONAL ADVICE
DEALING WITH
GRIEF: UNPROFESSIONAL ADVICE
06/03/2004 05:25 AM
I've written twice before about
suicide, and a new 'advice
column' in Salon.com has provoked me to write about it again. The
gist of my earlier articles:
- Depression
is a 'natural' consequence of stress, and, as the illustration
above shows, it is somewhat self-reinforcing: our DNA programs us, in
situations of intense or chronic stress, to
flight or flee, and if neither of those works, to shut down, withdraw,
give up -- and suicide is one manifestation of shutting down and
giving
up;
- If you haven't
lived
with the Noonday Demon, you can't possibly know what it's like,
and
you can't possibly know how it can lead someone to take their own
life;
and
- Moral
judgement of those who commit suicide is repugnant -- no one has
the right to tell another human being that their personal decision to
terminate their own life is 'cowardly', 'irresponsible', 'lazy',
"petulant', 'immature', 'self-pitying' 'self-indulgent', 'murderous',
or 'cynical and cruel'. To call someone who commits suicide a
'self-murderer' is
indistinguishable from and as morally reprehensible and outrageous as
calling a woman who terminates an unwanted pregnancy a 'baby
murderer'.
So you will probably not be surprised to learn that I was horrified to
hear Salon 'advice columnist' Cary Tennis encourage a survivor of a
friend's suicide to hate and blame the one who took his own
anguished life. Hate-mongering offends me at the best of times, and to
see it espoused against those suffering a dreadful and incapacitating
illness is disturbing. Here are two especially offensive excerpts:
Sentimentalizing
suicide only encourages others who, weak-minded, pained, lacking the
ability to see how foolish and wrong it is, might succeed all too well
in their feeble attempts.
When they go by suicide, they leave us in an insult of dust.
What fucking gall, Mr. Tennis -- and
such cruel and inflammatory language. Those who commit suicide are not
weak-minded, and if this 'advice columnist' had the faintest inkling
what it is like to live with suicidal depression he would know better.
And who the hell does he think he is to judge the actions of someone
he
has never met as 'foolish and wrong'?
Mr. Tennis should also know that suicide is almost never an 'insult'
to
anyone. It is an act of desperation, usually after years of
unimaginable suffering, to escape a living hell that the victim --
yes,
victim -- can no longer
bear. It usually has nothing to do
with anyone else, so the last thing it is is an insult to others.
To counsel people, especially people in pain after an unexpected and
shocking loss, to hate and blame the deceased is an affront to human
dignity, an abuse of trust, and an offense to the memory of someone
who
was a victim, not a 'murderer'.
There is a perverse character flaw in some people to always assuage
grief by transferring it to anger and blame. Grief is internal, and it
can eat you alive. Anger and blame are externally focused. They are
much easier emotions to handle. And in some cases -- like rechanneling
the grief over 9/11 into anger at Osama bin Ladin -- such transferance
is quite rational. But although the exploitative 'vengeance' religions
would have you believe otherwise, when people suffer and die there is
often no one to blame, no one
to get angry at. And reaching closure,
like dealing with grief, is an internal process. It is about
personally
coming to grips with loss, with the realization that the toxic 'what
might have been' is irrelevant, a fiction, closed.
It is a slow, painful healing process. And it is a process best
undertaken honestly. Using some cheap trick like transferring the pain
to anger and blame of a phony straw man merely perverts and delays the
process, and stirs up inappropriate emotions that can only confuse and
inflame, not heal.
Some advice, we're better off without.
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A flood of red ink
A flood of red ink
11/07/2003 02:01 AM A flood of
red ink This time the turnaround will be much tougher. There
will be no “peace dividend” from the end of the cold war (indeed,
the pressure on military spending may continue to increase). America
is unlikely to see another stockmarket bubble, with its surge in tax
revenues. As baby-boomers retire, the pressure from entitlement
spending will be more acute. Set against this background, the path
back to a sustainable fiscal policy will be extremely painful, even
without any dramatic fiscal crisis. Long after Dubya is back on his
ranch, Americans will be trying to recover from the mess he
created. Bookmarklet flood
Bookmarklet flood
03/20/2003 11:58 AMOne more bookmarklet for today. It makes a simple DOM inspector of
active window and it's document. Tested in IE6/XP,...
Don Flood: An Eye For Fashion
Don Flood: An Eye For Fashion
05/21/2004 09:53 PM"I find a lot of satisfaction at the end of the day seeing what we
did. There's no wait-and-see anymore. I love the confidence of knowing
I've got the shot." By Barbara Gibson, Apple (via MyAppleMenu)
DNS Flood Detector 1.10
DNS Flood Detector 1.10
10/30/2003 11:32 PMDetect abusive nameserver activity.
Clean-up after flood devastation
Clean-up after flood devastation
08/17/2004 12:16 AMA massive clean-up operation is underway in north Cornwall after
devastating flash floods hit the area.
Help pledge for flood buildings
Help pledge for flood buildings
08/18/2004 08:19 AMThe government promises to do all in its power to help businesses
affected by flash floods in Londonderry.
UN asks for Bangladesh flood aid
UN asks for Bangladesh flood aid
08/31/2004 02:40 AMThe UN urges the international community to come up with more aid for
flood victims in Bangladesh.
HALO PC - flood, howto
HALO PC - flood, howto
02/10/2004 02:41 PMAMDMB Feb 10 2004 6:29PM GMT
Comment Spam Flood
Comment Spam Flood
01/16/2004 11:33 AMI just got 500+ comment spams (mainly for zoo sex, apparently) from
someone who changes IP addresses every 3 msgs and changes the
offensive link in every message. This defeats the MT Blacklist program
I've been relying on. Help! I don't have time to manually strip out
500 spams. I will have to close comments (if I can figure out how to
do so for all previous entries)....
Tributes flood in for Reagan
Tributes flood in for Reagan
06/06/2004 06:51 AMWorld leaders pay tribute to former US president, Ronald Reagan, who
died aged 93 after a prolonged illness.
Computers try to keep up with
information flood
Computers try to keep up with
information flood
11/19/2003 11:40 AMYahoo! Nov 19 2003 10:24AM ET
Chronicle of a flood foretold
Chronicle of a flood foretold
12/30/2004 11:34 AMFor the Maldives, the day after tomorrow is now.
Implementing Flood Control
Implementing Flood Control
12/19/2004 03:27 PMIf the load of application relies on incoming events, you may
eventually face the happy curse of popularity: too much work to do
with your available resources. If you set a limit on how many events
you can process within a time period, you can avoid the flood. Vladi
Belperchinov-Shabanski explains the algorithm and demonstrates working
code.
Bangladesh flood cost put at $7bn
Bangladesh flood cost put at $7bn
07/29/2004 03:14 PMThe government counts the cost of devastating floods as the number of
those killed approaches 500.
Quake strikes flood-hit Caribbean
Quake strikes flood-hit Caribbean
05/29/2004 01:47 PMA tremor hits the border area between the Dominican Republic and
Haiti, which has been devastated by floods.
Indian flash flood sweeps away 30
Indian flash flood sweeps away 30
07/05/2004 05:41 PMAt least 30 people are washed away as they work on a river in the
state of Arunachal Pradesh.
A veritable flood of information awaits
A veritable flood of information awaits
04/18/2005 02:57 PM
Vanport was once Oregon's 2nd largest town.
Built by
shipbuilder
Henry
Kaiser during World War II to accommodate his workers, Vanport was
the first Oregon city to house black Americans in significant numbers.
(Blacks had a
rough time
in Oregon, even being legally prohibited to enter the state via the
state constitution's
exclusion
law).
The city of Vanport was
destroyed by a
flood in 1948, displacing more than 18,000
citizens
. Of these, over
25% were black. Although the city was never rebuilt, Vanport was
Oregon's
catalyst into racial integration and enlightenment. And
dams. Flood relief efforts hit problems
Flood relief efforts hit problems
07/15/2004 11:58 AMRelief efforts for millions of flood victims in South Asia are hit by
continuing bad weather and organisational problems.
Storms to bring flood risk
Storms to bring flood risk
01/11/2004 03:46 PMParts of England and Wales are at risk of flooding on Monday, with
forecasters warning of heavy rain and 80mph winds.
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