"Love has to be about more than commitment"

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Love, Commitment, And Windows Server
2003

Love, Commitment, And Windows Server
2003 02/13/2004 10:44 AM
Just in time for Valentine's Day, the matchmaking Web site, Match.com, is practicing what it preaches with a public display of affection. Match.com is nestling up to Microsoft's Windows Server 2003 and related technologies, including the Visual Studio .Net 2003 development tools and ASP .Net Web-services software. "We partnered with Microsoft because we knew they'd be there to support us," chief technology officer Mike Presz said in a written statement, using language one might expect from a love-struck user of his company's site. Embracing Windows was not always easy. Before switching to Windows Server 2003 in the middle of last year, Match.com's applications, written with earlier versions of Microsoft tools, ran on the Windows 2000 operating system. The code on the site had been patched and changed so many times it caused reliability problems, according to Louis Bardov, Match.com's VP of development. "We had issues with stability,'" he says. Some Match.com customers can relate to that.

Are You a Perpetual Bad Relationship
Magnet? Nobody's Unlucky in Love:
Learning Core Causes for Lousy Love
Relationships

Are You a Perpetual Bad Relationship
Magnet? Nobody's Unlucky in Love:
Learning Core Causes for Lousy Love
Relationships 06/18/2004 03:10 AM
Relationship advisor and author Nancy Pina dispenses free relationship advice to adults struggling with individual, couples and marriage issues. She advises teens and young adults in recognizing healthy, loving relationships. [PRWEB Jun 18, 2004]

Chris Abraham: Liberals Find Mad Love at
Act For Love

Chris Abraham: Liberals Find Mad Love at
Act For Love 06/22/2005 02:45 AM
Liberals Find Mad Love at Act For Love .. Permalink

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Boys love games, girls love ringtones

Boys love games, girls love ringtones 06/02/2004 10:08 AM
But neither gives a hoot for 3G

"Wait... they don't love you like I love
you" [sorry, got stuck in my head]

"Wait... they don't love you like I love
you" [sorry, got stuck in my head] 03/25/2005 04:09 PM
Social Explorer. "Social Explorer is dedicated to providing demographic information in an easily understood format, data maps. We serve hundreds of interactive data maps of United States. Here, you can visually analyze and understand the demography of the U.S., explore your neighborhood and learn about the people that live around you."

Love Macs? Then Learn To Love Macsurfer

Love Macs? Then Learn To Love Macsurfer 05/19/2004 08:55 AM
It does a bang up job of providing the Apple community with interesting reads day in day out. By Hadley Stern, O'Reilly Network (via MyAppleMenu)

I love women...no, wait, apparently I
love men

I love women...no, wait, apparently I
love men 01/04/2004 04:59 AM
mirror.co.uk

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The Irish Have a New Jackass: If You
Like Dumb, Stupid and Funny Stuff, Then
You Will Love This New Site From a Group
of Crazy Mental Irish guys Who Just Love
to Party

The Irish Have a New Jackass: If You
Like Dumb, Stupid and Funny Stuff, Then
You Will Love This New Site From a Group
of Crazy Mental Irish guys Who Just Love
to Party 03/22/2005 04:47 PM
The Americans have Jackass while the Irish have the Crazy mental team. These guys film all their stupid and funny stuff for our enjoyment, from driving a Ferrari 355 at breakneck speeds around the Hollywood hills in Los Angeles to drilling a hole in one of their arms with a hammer drill, these guys are really crazy. [PRWEB Mar 21, 2005]

Against Love: Love Politics Revisited

Against Love: Love Politics Revisited 03/22/2005 04:54 PM

The Idea: Author Laura Kipnis argues that monogamy is unnatural and unhealthy, and possibly complicit in our emotional detachment from political life and our ecosystem as well. Laura Kipnis, despite the title of of her 200-page "polemic", is not Against Love. Rather, she's against the trappings, the rules, the rituals that our culture imposes on love relationships. She goes even further -- she sees marriage, the institution, as every bit as repressive, suffocating and unnatural as our mind-numbing employment in modern hierarchical organizations, and draws strong parallels between the slavery of the workplace and the slavery of the matrimonial home. These two canons of civilization: our need and responsibility to devote our daytime hours to meaningless subordinate labour, and our need and responsibility to devote the rest of our hours to boring, stifling and unsatisfying monogamy, work together diabolically to keep us suppressed, and in our 'place' in society. Small wonder, she says, that one of our most enduring conventional wisdoms is that "a good marriage takes work". If this protestation against the rigours of monogamy, fidelity and marriage-slavery as the complement to wage-slavery sounds familiar, it's because it's very similar to the argument that Glenn Parton made in his essay posted first on these pages last year entitled "Love Politics". Glenn's argument is that we have become so emotionally numbed by our twin bondage to job and marriage that it has made our hearts cold and hard, uncaring of the plight of our planet and of others, and that this is a direct cause of the destruction of our world. "If I'm miserable, why should I care about anyone else?" Dare to love more than one person, he suggests, and the shackles of this self-imposed imprisonment are broken, and the inrush of emotion will shock us into awareness of, and eagerness to heal, the massive emotional and physical illness of our entire planet. Why should we, why do we subject ourselves to this one-love-partner-slavery as easily and as passively as we do to wage-slavery? This is the subject of much of Ms. Kipnis' book. Her prose is so adept and so powerful I won't attempt to paraphrase her arguments. Here are a few teasers: Is it the persistence of the work ethic that ties us to the compassionate couple and its workaday regimes, or is it the ethos of compassionate coupledom that ties us to sould-deadening work regimes...Resenting the boss? Feeling bored or overworked or dissatisfied? Getting complaints about your attitude? Whether it's "on the relationship" or "on the job" get yourself right to the therapist's office, pronto. There are only two possible diagnoses for all such modern ailments: it's going to be either "intimacy issues" or "authority issues". You'll soon discover that the disease doubles as the prescription at this clinic: You're just going to have to "work harder on yourself"... Take the modern consumer. Clearly, routing desire into consumption would be necessary to sustain a consumer society -- a citizenry who fucked in lieu of shopping would soon bring the entire economy grinding to a standstill. Or better still, take the modern depressive. What a boon to both the modern pharmaceutical and the social-harmony industries that such a social type would be. These are merely hypotheticals of course, since it's not as if we live in a society of consumers and depressives, or as if the best strategy for the latter weren't widely held to be strategically indulging in the former -- "retail therapy"...Love's proper denouement, matrimony, is also of course the social form regulated by the state, which refashions itself as a benevolent pharmacist, doling out the addictive substance in licensed doses...What about re-envisioning [marriage] or... insisting that social resources and privileges not be allocated on the basis of marital status? No. let's demand regulation! Not that it's easy to re-envision anything when these intersections of love and acquiescence are the very backbone of the modern self, when every iota of self-worth and identity hinge on them...Domestic coupledom is the boot camp for compliant citizenship, a training ground for gluey resignation and immobility... Ms. Kipnis suggests the same lack of innovation that permeates the workplace in the 21st century also permeates domestic institutions: Different social norms could entail something entirely different: yearly renewable contracts for example. And if we weren't so emotionally yoked to the social forms we've inherited that trying to envision different ways of having a love life seems intellectually impossible and even absurd, who knows what other options might present themselves?...It behooves [our] society to convince its citizenry that wanting change means personal failure, starting over is shameful, and wanting more satisfaction than you have is illegitimate...As love has increasingly become the center of all emotional expression in the modern imagination -- the quantity without which life seems forlorn -- anxiety about obtaining it in sufficient quantities and for sufficient duration has increased to the point that that anxiety suffuses the population, and most of our cultural forms...Uncoupling [then] can only be experienced as ego-crushing crisis and inadequacy...[and] the grief of failed love is exacerbated by inevitable feelings of personal failure... Much of the latter part of the book is focused on the psychological gymnastics of all three (or more) parties in the polygon of adultery, from the rationalization that hiding the affair is to protect the feelings of the cuckold, to the feelings of self-hatred and self-flagellation of the 'sinner(s)'. She also discusses the awkward mechanics of the ultimate break-up of either the marriage or the affair (or both), and the degree to which children of the relationship become hostages, or excuses for deception, or excuses for the boredom that gave rise to the deception. Of course the book also talks about famous infidelities in high political circles, and the twisted hypocrisy of conservatives' opposition to same-sex marriage, as well as the equal-opportunity-for-misery desire of lesbians and gays to gain access to the sad and repressive regulation of 'official' marriage rather than 'settling for' merely the legal and resource rights that come with equivalent-to-married status. And there's also a discussion of the pragmatic phenomenon of "serial monogamy" -- the fall-back that there's nothing wrong with marriage per se, it's just that we were all married to the wrong person. All of this is complicated (even more) by the emergence of the Two-Income Trap, which imposes a financial prison on top of the emotional one in marriage. We have to stay together because we can't afford to live apart. I am convinced that this one factor is overwhelmingly responsible for keeping the rate of divorce from reaching astronomical levels. It is also probably helpful in keeping birth rates in the West below replacement levels -- Not only can we not afford children, we certainly don't want any (or any more) with the spouse we're economically shackled to. And having one with the secret love is just too messy. In my recent article predicting a baby boom, perhaps I underestimated the sheer perverseness of a socioeconomic system that not only makes parenthood financially reckless, it also suppresses fertility rates by its expressed moral repugnance for having a child by someone other than your boring spouse. A lot of people, some of their own free will, and many more who have been pushed, have recently broken free of wage slavery and are now working, mostly for much less income, for themselves. That's probably a good thing in many ways -- it reduces the supply of the remaining wage slaves, which might actually, in time, allow them to bargain from a position of at least a bit of power. It increases self-sufficiency. It reduces excessive consumption. What if there were a similar revolution against marriage slavery? What if a whole generation just refused to define themselves (in more ways than one) as married, or to live with the constraints of monogamy, and instead opted for a polyamory life-style? Paternity 'rights' and responsibilities would both probably suffer, as the new family unit would be a woman (or possibly, and more logically, a group of women, in self-selected community) and their children. They would have the power, and could strike whatever contract they chose with males who wanted the responsibilities and privileges of fatherhood. The nuclear family and the 'single-family dwelling' would disappear. Conjugal relations would not attach to parental responsibility, and could be negotiated between any two people as individuals on a one-shot basis, with no responsibility other than the responsibility to prevent unwanted pregnancy and disease. This would probably be bad for the oldest profession, as the supply/demand ratio for quick couplings would soar. Jealousy and the consequent domestic violence that is the scourge of our nuclear spouse-as-property society would, slowly (old habits die hard), disappear. I think the vast majority of men, driven by million-year-old biological imperatives, once they reached a certain age, would choose to attach themselves to one of the matriarchal communities (if so invited), and would do their share to provide for its well-being, in return for the company and sense of purpose that would bring. We are told it takes a village, a community, to raise a child. Perhaps the community is necessary, and sufficient, for far more: To break us all free from both the emotionally numbing subjugation of wage-slavery and the misery and boredom of marriage-slavery. The community would then become truly self-sufficient in every respect, and we would be happier and freer than we can, or dare, imagine. Cartoon: By Peter Steiner from The New Yorker, in the Cartoon Bank

Lenders Looking for Commitment

Lenders Looking for Commitment 02/18/2004 04:11 PM
Credit card courting is getting conservative. Should you settle down?

Byers calls for pro-EU commitment

Byers calls for pro-EU commitment 05/07/2004 07:22 PM
The government needs to boost its effort to defeat anti-Europeans, former Labour minister Stephen Byers says.

"there's a commitment to a free version"

"there's a commitment to a free version" 05/13/2004 10:56 AM

AMD and IBM deepen chip commitment

AMD and IBM deepen chip commitment 09/22/2004 04:22 AM
ZDNet UK Sep 22 2004 7:35AM GMT

Novell deepens Linux commitment

Novell deepens Linux commitment 12/16/2003 12:27 PM
ZDNet UK Dec 16 2003 11:45AM ET

Sun deepens commitment to Java tools

Sun deepens commitment to Java tools 06/24/2004 02:26 PM
At the JavaOne conference next week, Sun will launch Java Studio Creator on the promise of ease of use, and will discuss developer productivity changes to Java.

HP Deepens Commitment to Open Source

HP Deepens Commitment to Open Source 06/02/2004 06:21 PM
NewsFactor Network-1 hour agoBy Ali Olsen. HP is partnering with software companies JBoss and MySQL to bring more enterprise customers into the Linux and open-source fold. ...

FindWhat Makes Commitment, Profit

FindWhat Makes Commitment, Profit 02/10/2004 09:02 AM
Internet News Feb 10 2004 1:34PM GMT

Confirmation of AT&T Wireless's $6.1
Billion 3G Commitment

Confirmation of AT&T Wireless's $6.1
Billion 3G Commitment 02/19/2004 02:39 AM
Internetnews.com confirms the $6.1 billion trigger that AT&T Wireless would have to pay DoCoMo: Internetnews.com confirms something the major media seems to have missed in the Cingular/AT&T Wireless deal: that DoCoMo would have to be paid $6.1 billion if AT&T Wireless didn't deploy 3G in four cities by 2005. This requirement will certainly push 3G rollout faster during 2004 with more alternatives--Verizon Wireless won't be the only speed demon in town. [link via TechDirt]...

Microsoft Broadens Commitment to 64-Bit
Windows

Microsoft Broadens Commitment to 64-Bit
Windows 02/17/2004 10:39 PM

Commitment in Driving 3G Wireless to the
Masses

Commitment in Driving 3G Wireless to the
Masses 03/29/2005 05:25 PM
3G Mar 29 2005 10:07PM GMT

Microsoft Re-establishes Commitment to
Improve Security

Microsoft Re-establishes Commitment to
Improve Security 07/15/2004 12:18 PM

Rice Seeks Russian Democracy Commitment
(AP)

Rice Seeks Russian Democracy Commitment
(AP) 02/05/2005 10:15 PM
AP - Russia needs to show a commitment to a free press and other "basics of democracy," and cooperate with former Soviet republics such as Georgia and Ukraine where democracy is taking hold, Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice said Saturday.

Optelec Furthers Commitment to Blind
Consumers

Optelec Furthers Commitment to Blind
Consumers 06/01/2004 02:43 AM
Only one month since announcing the appointment of a new Director of Corporate Development for its new blindness products division, Optelec USA, Inc. announced today yet another prestigious hire for the rapidly expanding division. Ms. JoAnn Becker has accepted the position of Blindness Products Manager. [PRWEB Jun 1, 2004]

Novell outlines commitment to open
source

Novell outlines commitment to open
source 01/22/2004 12:55 PM
Personal Computer World Jan 22 2004 5:43PM GMT

Microsoft Reinforces Commitment To Help
Improve Security

Microsoft Reinforces Commitment To Help
Improve Security 07/14/2004 07:01 AM

Motorola Strengthens Commitment to China
Telecom

Motorola Strengthens Commitment to China
Telecom 09/13/2004 02:51 PM
Internet News Sep 13 2004 6:05PM GMT

Bush asserts commitment to a "free and
secure Iraq"

Bush asserts commitment to a "free and
secure Iraq" 04/13/2004 10:15 PM

Microsoft Continues Commitment to Open
and Royalty-Free XML

Microsoft Continues Commitment to Open
and Royalty-Free XML 04/15/2004 11:43 AM

Fujitsu Lays the Foundations for
Strengthened Commitment in Europe

Fujitsu Lays the Foundations for
Strengthened Commitment in Europe 04/09/2005 03:20 AM
In a recent ceremony in Langen, Germany, Fujitsu Microelectronics Europe (FME) strengthened its commitment to Europe, as the foundation stone was laid for its new, purpose-built, European headquarters. The company will move from its current location in Dreieich-Buchschlag on December 15th 2005. [PRWEB Apr 9, 2005]

UAE authorities reaffirm commitment to
Intellectual Property Rights

UAE authorities reaffirm commitment to
Intellectual Property Rights 04/17/2005 03:22 PM
MENAFN Apr 17 2005 2:38PM GMT

Terra Soft Asserts Commitment to the
Apple G5 Platform.

Terra Soft Asserts Commitment to the
Apple G5 Platform. 11/11/2003 11:19 PM
Terra Soft Asserts Commitment to the Apple G5 Platform.

PR: Zend Strengthens Commitment to
Hardware Vendor Platforms

PR: Zend Strengthens Commitment to
Hardware Vendor Platforms 11/24/2002 06:29 AM
Product Availability for IBM, HP and Apple Platforms Further Support Business Adoption of PHP and Provides Software ISVs Wider Distribution Opportunities

U.S. Waters Down Global Commitment to
Curb Greenhouse Gases

U.S. Waters Down Global Commitment to
Curb Greenhouse Gases 12/19/2004 03:19 PM
Two weeks of negotiations at a U.N. conference ended with a weak pledge to start limited, informal talks on ways to slow down global warming.

Q&A: Microsoft Announces Leadership
Changes that Reinforce Commitment to
Business Applications

Q&A: Microsoft Announces Leadership
Changes that Reinforce Commitment to
Business Applications 06/10/2004 01:30 AM
Accounting Software 411 Jun 10 2004 5:43AM GMT

UNIS LUMIN's New Facility Further
Enhances Company's Commitment to
Customers

UNIS LUMIN's New Facility Further
Enhances Company's Commitment to
Customers 03/14/2005 04:45 PM
On March 4, 2005, UNIS LUMIN Inc. a leading provider of technology-based business solutions, will showcase its newly renovated facility in Oakville, Ontario. [PRWEB Mar 2, 2005]

Real shoots back at Apple, reaffirms
commitment to Harmony

Real shoots back at Apple, reaffirms
commitment to Harmony 07/29/2004 01:21 PM
Apple Computer Inc. issue d a statement on Thursday accusing RealNetworks of hacker-like tactics for its Harmony technology that will allow content from Real's music store to be played on Apple's iPod. Several hours later RealNetworks shot back saying they have done nothing wrong and reaffirmed its commitment to developing Harmony.

Hewlett-Packard Grows Open-Source
Commitment (NewsFactor)

Hewlett-Packard Grows Open-Source
Commitment (NewsFactor) 06/01/2004 03:21 PM
NewsFactor - Hewlett-Packard is increasing its use of open-source software by certifying and supporting products from JBoss and MySQL.

Gartner Questions Microsoft's Commitment
To Operating-System Security

Gartner Questions Microsoft's Commitment
To Operating-System Security 02/13/2004 01:27 PM
The research firm warns that the ASN.1 vulnerability made public this week could prove worse than the vulnerability that made MS Blaster possible. Research firm Gartner issued a note late Thursday that raises serious questions about Microsoft's internal commitment to rid its operating system of security holes that make worms such as MS Blaster, SQL Slammer, and Code Red possible.

Microsoft Reinforces Commitment and
Action To Help Improve Security for
Customers

Microsoft Reinforces Commitment and
Action To Help Improve Security for
Customers 07/13/2004 03:32 PM
Today at the Microsoft® Worldwide Partner Conference 2004, Mike Nash, corporate vice president for the Security Business and Technology Unit at Microsoft Corp., provided an update on the continued commitment Microsoft has made to help improve the security of computers and networks. Nash outlined steps Microsoft has taken and noted measured progress to date, including technical innovation in providing greater isolation and resiliency for computers and networks; improvements to security update tools and processes; expanded authorization, authentication and access control capabilities; improvements to quality through a commitment to engineering excellence; and success in providing global customer guidance and engagement. Nash also announced the general availability of Internet Security and Acceleration (ISA) Server 2004 and outlined Microsoft's strategy for Network Access Protection technologies.
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